Wednesday, November 22, 2017

2017 Operation Integrity Year-End Summary



Facing Addiction – Inspiring Recovery - Transforming Lives

 

 

 With deep appreciation, I present our 2017 Year-End Update.

People Helping People

·       Operation Integrity (OI) is helping men and women in 7 U.S. States heal from their addictions, becoming transformed people who help other people recover. I continue my work with Clergy and Christian Leaders in several U.S. Cities, The UK, Shanghai and recently in Northern Ireland, assisting a young pastor plant a recovery fellowship to help himself and others – a first for the area.

·        We continue helping dozens of men and their families at home, Coast Hills Church. Lives transformed in community through OI’s 45 & 90 Day Programs and ongoing fellowship.

 Partnering and Expanding

·        This year, I joined the faculty of THE LEADERSHIP INSTITUTE (TLI) to do addiction & recovery training for Pastors who come to TLI from around the world and develop retreats in southern California to help men and women enlarge their personal recovery through TLI.

·        This Fall I began working more closely with MARINERS CHURCH RECOVERY MINISTRY (MRM) - Irvine Campus, taping a Video Series sure to reach thousands of people in an ongoing partnership with MRM and OI – one that will grow significantly this next year.

·        I also completed content development for 8 Videos for a treatment program to use in their centers.

 

Word Power

·        My books OUR JOURNEY HOME and WHEN LOST MEN COME HOME, NOT FOR MEN ONLY inspire a diverse group of people hungry to connect more deeply with God and other people. 700+ people are inspired each week by our blog, Operation Integrity Daily. I authored a booklet to help counselors and their clients better collaborate using Christ-centered 12 Steps.

 
Overcoming Setbacks

·       The computer for Operation Integrity was hacked so we lost our entire 3700+ email list of subscribers and supporters. And, the decision was made to suspend work upgrading the current OI website to review with fresh approach in 2018.

·       We immediately begin rebuilding our database, already reconstructing a list of 350 with more added daily. Having consulted with marketing and internet/social media experts, and pending funding, we will launch a simplified operationintegrity.org that will offer online training courses.

·       We will always continue blending the love of Jesus with clinical insights and the 12 Steps, offering this narrative through speaking and writing, woven into the fabric of our fellowship programs, and always encouraged as an essential personal experience for recovery.

 

Healing and Transformation

After 25 years, marriage for Leon and Trisha had grown cold, both were looking for a way out. But Leon made the decision to face his addictions and himself, so he enrolled in an OI Transformation Program that launched him into a journey of spiritual discovery and emotional transformation. Over the next year he became a personal growth leader for Trisha, she followed, together with OI and counseling, they are building intimacy and connection like never before.

 

And there is Robert, who suffered agonizing addictions to affairs and pornography, which of course brought calamity to his mental and emotional health and that of his wife and family. A church attender his whole life, Robert had given up on the possibility he could experience the freedom his heart longed to know. Doing his OI work, Robert learned to face the trauma and deep sadness of his childhood, embracing the value of being honest about himself with others, which helped him be even more honest with himself. His wife saw a difference in him and met him half way. Today, their whole family is healing.

 

Your Chance to Help

Operation Integrity needs $33,000.00 to complete our 2017 budget and provide a strong start for 2018. I ask that you financially support our work. (All donations are tax deductible.) Over and above what I have shared above, your donation will…

 

·       Fund The Roger M. Fund (scholarships 45 & 90 Day Programs for those unable to pay).

·       My personal support for doing this work.

·       Print and ship literature sent to inmates through prison chaplains.

·       Everyday expenses including shipping and postage costs, vehicle and travel expenses, communications, professional services, social media management and website development and maintenance.

·       Client care such as temporary housing (sober-living), and sometimes help with food and clothing, as well as employer relations and family support and counseling. 

·       Print and ship literature in support of developing recovery groups in U.S and overseas.

 

Thank you in advance. Most of all, thank you for your ongoing support through prayer.

 

To support Operation Integrity.


2. Mail your check to Operation Integrity

 2040 Camino del Avion #A115

 Monarch Beach CA 92629

 

Yours in Christ and recovery,

 

  

David Zailer

Executive Director

info@operationintegrity.org

1-949-842-1012       

 

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Tuesday, November 14, 2017

DESTINY ARRIVES AND WE SHOW UP

Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry the message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

Summing it all up, friends, I'd say you'll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious - the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. Put into practice what you learned from me, what you heard and saw and realized. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies.
Philippians 4:8-9, The Message


"Listen to your life. See it for the fathomless mystery that it is. In the boredom and pain of it no less than in the excitement and gladness: touch, taste, smell your way to the holy and hidden heart of it because in the last analysis all moments are key moments, and life itself is grace."
- Frederick Buechner

Destiny Arrives and We Show Up

None of us ever meant to get addicted to anything. We didn’t ask for it, and we didn’t intend it. In the beginning, addiction was the last thing we ever thought would happen to us. But, nonetheless, we got addicted anyway. In the end, no matter how naive or innocent we might have been, we have had to confess that our addictions have been deeply rooted in our bad thinking and our lack of a real faith in God. We now know how a lack of authentic faith and bad thinking go hand in hand.

Recovery became possible for us when we admitted our need and began to accept the help that God made available. Making this confession helped us hope for a better life than the one we had known in the past. We began to see that God had bigger and better plans for us than we did. Following His plan, both our addictions and our healing became a pathway. They became like stepping-stones to a revolutionary kind of personal transformation that we never could have envisioned when we first started our journey. And along the way, we receive much more than we ever could have expected or anticipated. We have been changed on the inside. We have learned things that no book could ever teach us. We have gained insights and had experiences that we could never get in any classroom or from any other person, either. There is a new presence and reality within us and it is more than our senses can identify, more than our physical bodies can contain and very, very much more than we can ever explain. We have God’s Spirit working inside of us and through us.

The way we experience recovery is a unique and personalized gift from God. We receive it and experience it on an individual and personal basis. It is a redemption that is deeply intimate between God and us, together, just the two of us, connecting and being close. This is why none of us will ever have the exact same experience in recovery or with God. And while we all have our own intimate encounter with God, the recovery experience He gives is not ours to keep for ourselves. We must be willing to share it if we want to keep it long-term. And as we share our experience with others, we will discover that we have much more in common than we ever realized before. This is how God expands and multiplies the intimate life He has shared with us.


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Wednesday, November 8, 2017

FEELING AND DOING

We made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

This is the kind of life you’ve been invited into, the kind of life Christ lived. He suffered everything that came his way so you would know that it could be done, and also know how to do it, step by step. He never did one thing wrong, Not once said anything amiss. They called him every name in the book and he said nothing back. I Peter 2:21–23, The Message

“It is not until we love a person in all his ugliness that we can make him beautiful, or ourselves either.”
- Frederick Buechner, The Magnificent Defeat, page 42

Feeling and Doing

Let’s be honest about the deep anger and resentment that we have held against some of the people to whom we owe amends. All of us have suffered to some degree because of the anger we have stored up on the inside. If we take a moment to honestly consider this, we will see that there is really no question that we have felt this way. Anger and resentment are some of the core feelings that drive our addictions. The only real relevant question now is, Can we – will we face our anger honestly, with integrity, and not let it stand in the way of our recovery?

Recovery and future growth will not allow us to sidestep our feelings. We have to be willing to confront the destructive feelings that we have felt for certain specific people (this may even include a group of people or a particular demographic) if we want to recover and make healthy changes to our relationships in the future. Feeling the way we feel does not excuse us from taking the important steps that we need to take in order to make amends to the people we have harmed. Feelings are feelings and nothing more. They are like lights on the dashboard of our lives. They tell us about important things that are going on under the hood but they are not intended to dictate the actions we take nor do they excuse our procrastinations.

There may be times when we realize that some of the people who are on our amends list have caused us harm and the wrongs they’ve done to us far exceed anything we’ve done to them. It is vitally important that we keep our focus here. The wrongs that other people have done to us are not our concern at this point in time. We need to make the decision to no longer hold their wrongs against them. After consulting with our advisors, let us contact these people and apologize to them for our inappropriate actions, offering to do whatever we can do to repair the damage we have caused. These particular people may have never acknowledged the hurt and pain they have caused us, and maybe they never will. Nevertheless, let us continue to forgive them everyday, not because they are innocent or because they deserve forgiveness, but because we need to do so in order to continue to recover from our addictions and to heal from the damage they did to us.

Occasionally feelings of anger and resentment will return. Because of this, we should diligently monitor our own thoughts and feelings and be willing to let go of any renewed anger that comes up. While we may not have a future relationship with these particular people, our attitude toward them, ourselves and others will be radically improved only to the degree that we are willing to forgive them and make amends to them. We can be honest about how things really were in our past relationships. We don’t need to make excuses for our friends, our families or for ourselves anymore. Things simply were the way they were and, today, they are the way they are. We can hope and even pray that someday things may change, that we can have a healthy and happy relationship with all people and that all people will recognize that our new life and values are worth appreciating. But, in order for us to continue to grow in God’s plan for our lives, we must remember that other people’s attitude toward us are none of our business. It is between them and God.


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Wednesday, November 1, 2017

FROM SHAME TO GRACE

We humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

For God can use sorrow in our lives to help us turn away from sin and seek salvation. We will never regret that kind of sorrow. But sorrow without repentance is the kind that results in death. 2 Corinthians 7:10, NLT

“We can accept God’s good gifts too easily. Grace can be accepted only when we face our own inabilities. Forgiveness can be embraced only when we lay bare our wrongdoing, and hope can be imparted only when we face the reality of our own despair.” - Charles Ringma

From Shame to Grace

Humility is an awareness that we are both imperfect and worthwhile at the same time. Humility is a high ground that traverses the bogs and swamps of grandiosity and self-hatred. Humility chooses to follow God’s plan over our own. When we live humbly, which we can be defined as consistently choosing God’s way of doing things over our own way of doing things, impossibly good things begin to happen to otherwise impossible people like us. We get turned inside out. Our attitude begins to change. Our outlook on life becomes healthier and more balanced. The destructive feelings we have had for ourselves will diminish. We will begin to see things differently. As we change on the inside, things around us begin to change as well. Life and the way we live it begin to make sense.

Humility is an acceptance of ourselves, sin and all. Humility helps us to see ourselves with one eye to evaluate and the other eye to appreciate. Humility admits to shortcoming and wrongdoing, then it reaches out and accepts the help that is needed to make serious changes. Humility helps us to understand the problems that we cannot solve on our own. This is why Jesus becomes increasingly important to us in our recovery. For you see, God never expects us to solve all of our problems on our own. He understands that our character defects and our addictions are beyond our ability to change. So, God offers to do for us what we can never do for ourselves. He offers to transform us by taking our character defects and, in exchange, replacing them with the character of Jesus. All we have to do to is to give up our character defects to Him and humbly receive Jesus’ character as God, according to His plan, builds it in us.


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