DISSATISFACTION AND DESIRE – GIFTS FROM GOD
Dissatisfaction and desire are gifts from God. They are unique human qualities that reveal much of what is in our heart. For an addict, dissatisfaction with himself can be a gift from God because it can create the profound desire to change. Dissatisfaction and the desire it brings motivate us to take action; they are required if we want to recover from sexual addiction.
Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness… Matthew 5:6 NLT
The dissatisfaction I felt within motivated me to do whatever I could do to stop living out my addictions. No longer could I be satisfied to just sit in the center of my problems alone, looking up and hoping or expecting things would change. I knew I had to change, too. I was ready for things to change in my heart, my mind, and in my character. I wholeheartedly wanted to escape my addicted life and become the kind of person who could live life well — someone who would make valuable contributions to the lives of others.
Until we become discontent with the rigors of trying to escape our powerlessness we will live locked into the present status quo. If we are fully at home in our situation, then we will not ponder a better tomorrow. Discontent is the mother of invention. Discontent is holy when it compels us to dream of redemption.
Dr. Dan Allender, The Healing Path pg 84
The real desire for real change grows up and out from the soiled reality of our corrupted life when it is examined and compared side-by-side with something better. If we are not dissatisfied with our "status quo," our hope for change is only a pipe dream — a fantasy — a merry-go-round of addictive make-believe. Dissatisfaction is a good and authentic emotion. It ignites a desire for a better future, not only recovering from sexual addiction, but as people who are truly free in every way. We don’t just want to be healed, we want our entire sexually addicted personality and character reformatted and changed by the perfect design of God.
No matter what we do or where we hide, we can’t escape our essential design. We long to be free of shame’s restraints, immersed in the passion of giving and receiving. We long to live a sacrificial life that matters today and tomorrow.
Dr. Dan Allender, The Healing Path pg 107
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