PRACTICE MAKES PROGRESS
I practice these recovery principles every day. Seeking to have an honest view of myself and monitoring my own motives, helps insure my progress in recovery. God does not tell me to bring my failures to Him once. He tells me I should bring my failures to Him continuously, day in and day out.
So let’s not allow ourselves to get fatigued doing good. At the right time we will harvest a good crop if we don’t give up, or quit. Right now, therefore, every time we get the chance, let us work for the benefit of all, starting with the people closest to us in the community of faith.
Galatians 6:9 MSG
God is in charge of human life, watching and examining us from the inside and out.
Proverbs 20:27 MSG
Recovery is a continuously ongoing process of character development. I cannot be what I am not. However, with practice, I can make progress. When I lack character, I admit it. When admitting my lack of character, I make myself available — honestly — to character improvement. Improvement in my character comes to me more like a gift from God than something I have earned on my own. Every time I admit my wrongdoing and sincerely rededicate myself to correcting my mistakes the best I can, I live more deeply within the framework of God’s character, which helps me to think, react and live more effectively in the future. To quit pretending takes practice and good practice makes good progress.
If the Spirit of God detects anything in you that is wrong, He does not ask you to put it right; He asks you to accept the light, and He will put it right. A child of the light confesses instantly and stands bared before God; a child of the darkness says – “Oh, I can explain that away.” When once the light breaks and the conviction of wrong comes, be a child of the light, and confess, and God will deal with what is wrong; if you vindicate yourself, you prove yourself to be a child of the darkness.
Oswald Chambers My Utmost for His Highest March 23
What helps at this point is to see your consequences as your teachers. You have been sent a lesson to learn. If you don’t learn the lesson this time, it will manifest itself again, and probably in a more painful form the next time.
Patrick Carnes Ph.D. Facing the Shadow pg 17
Recovery is an everyday kind of work. Daily, I do my best to guard myself against pride, arrogance and over-confidence. Nothing gets wasted when I do my recovery honestly. My failures even provide great motivation for change and growth. As we get into the habit of honestly sharing ourselves with others, we become the men we want to be: real men. On my bad days, I tend to think about my failures. On my good days, I tend to think about my successes. But! On my best days, I tend not to think about myself at all. This is because I am too busy thinking about God and others.
The power to honor the truth – to speak it and be it – is at the heart of true masculinity.
Leanne Payne, Crisis in Masculinity pg 41
This is an excerpt from WHEN LOST MEN COME HOME, not for men only
~ Copyright David Zailer, 2011