My sponsor consistently spoke to me about my social and relational responsibilities, which meant working to repair the damage and hurt my addicted life had caused other people. It has always been and always will be our responsibility to initiate peace and healing in relationships. With this in mind, I began the work of helping others recover from pain I caused them, pain they did not ever deserve. And, my sponsor also told me, the best way for me to continue my own recovery work was to help others, especially those who have been hurt by me and my addictions.
Making amends is not easy. Any recovering sex addict will tell you that making amends is very challenging work. It can be complicated too, because we may face situations where we need to make amends to people who deeply resent us. As much as we would like to have one, there is no magic wand in recovery or in making amends. If we go looking for a magic wand, we will lose ourselves to a world of fantasy and make-believe. Recovery only happens in the real world. If we really want to recover, we will be willing to live in the real world. Making amends is not optional.
God blesses those who work for peace, for they will be called the children of God.
Matthew 5:9 NLT
This is an excerpt from WHEN LOST MEN COME HOME, not for men only ~ Copyright David Zailer, 2011