In true surrender to God, we quit fighting anyone or anything, because we know the only battle really worth fighting is within ourselves. Because I am powerless over people, places and things, it is essential that I keep as my primary goal a faith that longs for God and trusts in His care. A trusting relationship with God always brings improving character.
"You know you're surrendered to God when you rely on God to work things out instead of trying to manipulate others, force your agenda, and control the situation. You let go and let God work. You don't have to always be 'in charge.' Instead of trying harder, you trust more."
Rick Warren - The Purpose Driven Life
Sexual addiction can be like a train wreck. Just because we put on the brakes does not mean we won’t crash and have the pieces of our lives come apart. Consequences already set in motion by poor decisions and destructive actions will likely play themselves out to their natural conclusion. How we come to accept the world, our circumstances and our consequences varies individually, but the willingness to accept the things we cannot change is essential. True surrender means being willing to accept the world and the circumstances that are beyond our ability to control. This is essential for everyone, addicted or not.
As I recover and grow, I am learning to make peace with an imperfect and often unfair world. It’s broken and it just doesn’t run right. I see others getting away with things I no longer get away with but wish I could. At the same time, I find myself asking — or maybe it’s God asking me — How many times did people look at the way I lived and wonder why I was getting away with those same things? The truth is no one gets away with wrongdoing. Sooner or later, we all reap what we sow.
Regardless of the difficulties I face in this world, it is my job to focus on my spiritual relationship with God as I understand His will to be, and allow others to do what they will, be it right or wrong. A man’s freedom is his right according to his Creator. God gives every man the right to make his choices. It’s not our place to judge. By virtue of the gift of recovery, my response-ability is to do all I can to make my life right with God and with others. This I can do.