We made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
God blesses those who work for peace, for they will be called the children of God. Matthew 5:9, NLT
“Let’s not talk prudence while practicing evasion.”
- Alcoholics Anonymous, page 85, The Twelve and Twelve
Talk is Cheap
It is time that we begin repairing the damage and hurt that we have caused other people whenever and wherever it is possible for us to do so. Initiating peace and healing will always be one of the responsibilities that we have in the life that God is giving to us. So, let us commit ourselves to helping others, helping them to recover from the pain that we have caused them -- pain that they didn’t create or deserve.
This will probably not be easy. Ask any recovering addict that has preceded us in the process of making Step Nine amends and they will tell you that making amends is hard and difficult work. And, it is all the more difficult when we are offering our amends to people who, in all likelihood, may resent us. Unfortunately, there is no shortcut or magic wand in setting our wrongs right, especially where other people are involved. Looking for shortcuts will only get us lost into our own self-created world of fantasy and make-believe. Recovery from addiction and enjoying healthy relationships only happens in the real world. If we really want to recover and have good relationships in the future we will have to be willing to live in the real world.
Making amends is not optional if we want to recover, grow and change. The best thing we can do is to help those who have been hurt by our addictions and the self -centered ways that we have lived our lives.
Insights and Inspirations for Christian Twelve Step Recovery
By David Zailer and The Men and Women of Operation Integrity
Chapter Nine Segment One
Copyright David Zailer, 2008
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